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E10 | The Danny Episode

Published on: 25th May, 2025

In this short-form episode of Tapped In, I discuss the passing of Danny Harvey, who was a friend and coworker. Danny’s passing has been difficult for us all, but I felt like I needed to express how the passing of this unique and compassionate man affected me.

What You’ll Learn:

* Who was Danny Harvey

* How It Affected Us

* How I’ve Been Dealing

One Quote to Reflect On:

“Grief is the price we pay for love.”— Queen Elizabeth II

Hope you enjoyed the article and the audio companion. I’m looking forward to continuing a these. Both for the growth of Substack but also for own personal development.

Thank you,

David Figueroa-MartinezFounder, DFM CoachingCoach | Writer | Grappler

DFM Coaching is dedicated to helping you overcome mental hurdles and achieve your full potential in BJJ. Whether through in-person instruction, seminars, private lessons, remote coaching, or video analysis, I provide personalized support tailored to your needs. Keep pushing forward, and let’s grow together!

🔊 EPISODE 1: “Why Tapping is a Skill, Not a Shame”

Rewiring how you view loss, pain, and quitting• Reframe tapping as a decision, not a defeat• Learn why pain is feedback—not failure• Discover how the tap protects your longevity and growth

🔊 EPISODE 2: “From Proving to Improving”

Outgrowing gym performance anxiety• Stop rolling to impress and start rolling with intent• Let go of fear-driven intensity and chase progress• Build quiet confidence rooted in awareness, not approval

🔊 EPISODE 3: “Respect Doesn’t Mean Submission”

How to train assertively and kindly• Stand your ground while being a safe partner• Hold standards when no one’s watching• Build a balanced training style—push hard, protect spirits



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Tapped In: A JiuJitsu Podcast
A Bjj/Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Podcast By DFM Coaching
Tapped In: A Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Podcast | Training, Mastery & Mindset

I’m David Figueroa-Martinez, a BJJ Black Belt and coach, and I created Tapped In for the grapplers who train for mastery, not just medals. This is a short-form series designed to give you tactical clarity in the 12–24 minutes it takes to drive to the gym.

I cut through the fluff to bring you grounded reflections on the mindset, structure, and strategy behind real Jiu-Jitsu growth. Whether I’m breaking down mat culture, ego management, or game-planning for your next promotion, my goal is to help you train with purpose and lead with intent.

What you can expect every week:
Tactical Coaching: Insights into BJJ game-planning and technical structure.
Mat Culture & Leadership: Navigating gym dynamics and the student-coach relationship.
The Mental Game: Managing ego, building resilience, and staying steady in the chaos of the roll.

Train smarter. Think deeper. Stay tapped in.
New episodes released 3x a week.

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David Figueroa-Martinez

I’m David Figueroa-Martinez, Jiu-Jitsu black belt, mindset coach, and founder of Tapped In. This podcast isn’t for hype or highlight reels. It’s for grapplers who train with purpose.

I teach structure, not chaos. Mindset, not ego. Progress, not performance.

Through each episode, I share grounded lessons from the mats, the mind, and the moments that shape who we become, as athletes, as leaders, and as people.

I also run DFM Coaching, where I help White and Blue Belts build clarity and structure through personalized systems, and write Choke Point Chronicles, a weekly series diving deep into strategy, growth, and culture in Jiu-Jitsu.

Whether you’re a White Belt looking for direction or a black belt trying to stay sharp without selling your soul, this is where we train the inner game.